An avid reader, I prefer the way that the stories are told from a first-person perspective (the literary equivalent of POV porn). I love being able to read about how all the narrator’s senses are being engaged.
As someone who was assigned female at birth andused to identify as a woman, I found it really refreshing to study pleasure from the point of view of a female narrator(more on womxn-centric porn later).
To this day, I still love reading erotic stories. Being a part of someone’s fantasy in that way is so much more erotic than watching a bunch of body parts smush together on screen.
At last, I received my longed-after Lioness Vibrator in the mail and she’s been joining me on all kinds of research adventures since. I’ve always been an avid investigator by nature, but my new friend has certainly taken things up a notch—or five!
I set out to see what we could come up with solo—just the Lioness and me—as well as how she and my partner would get along, and in which different ways we could all play together.
The first rule of Masturbation Club is how you masturbate is up to you. Your body, your choice.
And it’s true that masturbation looks very different for all of us; some of us may be pillow-humpers, some of us may enjoy penetrative sex toys, and some of us may just enjoy some spit and our own hands.
The second rule, though, is masturbation can be fun when it’s mutual!
Before you ask, yes, mutual masturbation is different than having sex with a partner—even though it is just as fun!
Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) is a more aggravated version of Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS). PMS feels like bopping to an angsty No Doubt song on the radio, while PMDD feels like being trapped in a Hawthorne Heights screamo concert with no end in sight.
PMDD is a medical condition that causes severe irritability, anxiety, and depression in the week or two before your period(1). Symptoms subside 2-3 days after your period starts. An estimated 5-8% of women and AFAB (assigned female at birth) individuals have PMDD(2).
Those of us that have PMDD can thank our lucky stars that masturbating serves as a fun way to relieve symptoms.
Ah, weed lube. Who wouldn’t be intrigued by the promise of better orgasms?
I’ve spent the last seven years developing the Lioness Smart Vibrator, which uses biofeedback technology, precision sensors, and data to track orgasms. Of that time, I’ve spent three of those years conducting different projects studying the effects of cannabis on sexual function. Naturally, those two passions intersected into exploring how all sorts of cannabis strains and products can affect pleasure, both with myself and with different people.
That’s why I’m excited to share with you today a review of one of my favorite cannabis lubricants, Quim’s Oh Yes Latex-safe Serum. I’ll share my orgasm data to show what made this different compared to everything else I’ve tried.
While I can recognize the energizing power and benefits of a masturbation ritual, I can also see when I’ve become too dependent on it. Instead of finding time for workouts, meditation, or journaling, my masturbation habits carry all the weight of relieving my stress.
With quarantine forcing us to bring our workspace into our homes, it has been too easy to sneak off between Zoom calls to rub one out. I started to get antsy, irritable, and impatient throughout my workday. I had trouble concentrating because I was simply biding time until I could get my next fix.
Orgasms can be addictive when I don’t balance that out with other forms of self-care. I began to wonder what masturbation would look like when I’m not using it solely for stress-relief.
"I was really attracted to [Lioness's] data-tracking, particularly with regards to muscle contraction. At the time, I was struggling with pain during intercourse and was diagnosed with vaginismus, so I wanted to see for myself what that looked like."
So, it’s been a while since I’ve done any type of blogging so I forget how to really begin. So I guess I’ll begin with who am I. I am a sexual health researcher, so basically I get to talk about sex all day without people thinking I’ve a (complete) weirdo. I’m also a woman who has stresses, frustrations, good days, bad days, and a sex drive. I use the Lioness in many different aspects of my life and I’m so excited to share my experiences.
Ah, the great, long orgasm battle between man vs woman. One of life’s greatest mysteries of understanding what the opposite sex experiences during an orgasm.
In the past 3 years working onLioness and talking about the data of orgasms, we get a lot of questions about male vs female orgasms: “How do women orgasm?” "What does an orgasm feel like for women?" “Are orgasms better for men or women?” “Why are women’s orgasms more complicated than men’s?” “Can men use the Lioness?”
For a while, I could only refer to different scientific papers and models which gets overwhelming even for me to fully understand all the schools of thought...
TheMagic Wandwasn't deemed one of "The 50 Most Influential Gadgets of All Time" byTime Magazine for just any ol' reason. It's one of the most classic, longstanding vibrators out there.
With all of the new gadgets and gizmos that have been invented since this massager's inception in 1968 (by super conservative Japanese company Hitachi, no less), does it still stand up to new technology? Let's find out!
I'm going to use my trustyLionessto measure my orgasm when using the Magic Wand vs. when using other toys and stimulators, so we can see how the experiences are similar and different.