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Sex Guides

Not interested in sex these days? Studies show that nearly 40% of women will experience some type of sexual problem over the course of their lives, and 70% with low sexual desire report negative results such as poor self esteem.  If you’ve experienced a loss of libido, were you able to determine why?

Sex, and what is sexy, lies on a massive spectrum that is highly personalized to each individual person. So you can bet that when it comes to choosing the right sex club, you're going to want to find a group that aligns with what you think is sexy. So if you’re wondering where to begin when delving into the wide world of sex clubs, here are a few places to start.

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Sex clubs may seem taboo or risque, but as Grace learned, sex clubs are about finding what is erotic for you, as the individual, and creating a safe space to explore it. Still, it’s natural to feel nervous about attending. If you want to push the boundaries of your comfort zone, but are not sure what to expect, here are three important things to know before visiting your first sex club or sex party.

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Lesbians have great sex, and we have the data to prove it. Research published in the journal Archives of Sexual Nature found that while straight people have sex more often, lesbians report having far more orgasms — 86 percent of the time —  compared to their heterosexual counterparts, who orgasm only 65 percent of the time.  

But how do we have this earth-shattering, orgasm-giving sex? It’s not just about oral sex— though there’s plenty of that, too. To avoid the dreaded “lesbian bed death” thought to come with long-term relationships, lesbians have to get more creative with our sex positions to keep things exciting.

Whether you’ve been together for 2 months or 20 years, here are some of the best lesbian sex positions you can incorporate into your sex life to keep the passion flowing.

Half of the population has a menstrual cycle and bleeds every month. It’s a completely normal, healthy bodily function. But in our culture, there’s a lot of fear-mongering about menstruation, particularly when it comes to having sex on your period. Is it safe? What are the benefits?
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It sounds like a philosophical question — "What's the difference between a real and a fake orgasm?"

While orgasms might be more obvious if you have a penis (though even then, people can get creative if they want or need to fake it), there is a lot of confusion over what constitutes a “real”, so-called "female orgasm” and why someone would fake one.

We go more in-depth on what a real orgasm is and feels like in another article (which you can read here). But for this guide, we’ll talk about what a fake orgasm can be, why people do it, if it’s wrong, and what to do if your partner (or you) are faking it and want to change that.

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Oral sex. Cunnilingus. Eating out. Giving head.

Whatever you call it, going down on a person with avulva is an amazing experience for everyone involved—if you do it right. (So for the love of vulvas,please stop drawing the ABC’s with your tongue.)

Good oral sex can make you feel like you have superpowers, whether you’re the giving or receiving partner. Going down on a woman (or person with a vulva) requires finesse. It requires confidence. Most of all, it requires you to understand what you’re doing and why.

Instead of turning oral sex into a spelling bee or guessing game, take a look at our tips for both giving and recieving oral sex, as well as some quotes from both oral sex givers and receivers.

We’re not saying they’re totally fail-proof oral sex tips, but they are fun and sexy, with the potential to produce mind-blowing orgasms!

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By Krystina Jackson, Ms. Wheelchair California 2018

"We are extremely sensual creatures. Even being paralyzed from the chest down, I find myself aroused by various situations. I have been as stimulated from an engaging conversation as I have from looking at someone I found physically irresistible."

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I wouldn’t say I’m the master or a connoisseur of anal, but I do enjoy the extra stimulation every now and then when I’m in the mood. I’ve found that a great place to start is self-love with anal toys. This way, you get a better understanding of your own body’s workings and preferences that you can extend to a partner when/if you’re ready. So, for anyone interested in dabbling in anal sex and looking for a quick, beginner anal guide, welcome!
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Before we learn how to talk, we are already experiencing the world through our senses. As we grow up and have more things that occupy our minds, the sensations that shape our experiences become afterthoughts.

Becoming aware of the different feelings and sensations can help keep you in the present and heighten intimacy. And yes, this awareness can also help you have better sex and pleasure (and orgasms, too).

That’s where sensation play comes in — it’s the act of engaging your senses in different ways to heighten your pleasure. These senses come in all shapes and forms, from visual to auditory to tactile. Learn more about how to incorporate sensation play into your routine.

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Facebook (and Instagram) decided to ban speech related to “sexual slang” on their platform. Meanwhile, Steam takes a more nuanced approach to their content, treating adults like adults (within reason).

Tumblr just announced that they would be removing all adult content from their site, presenting their announcement with the title “A better, more positive Tumblr”. Along with YouTube, Google, Facebook, and other major content providers, the internet is becoming more polarized about sex. It’s either completely wiping away anything sexual or throwing anything sexual over the wall into “adult content” (i.e. pornography) with no room in between. What are the implications of this?

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