Sex Guides

At last, I received my longed-after Lioness Vibrator in the mail and she’s been joining me on all kinds of research adventures since. I’ve always been an avid investigator by nature, but my new friend has certainly taken things up a notch—or five!

I set out to see what we could come up with solo—just the Lioness and me—as well as how she and my partner would get along, and in which different ways we could all play together.

The first rule of Masturbation Club is how you masturbate is up to you. Your body, your choice. 

And it’s true that masturbation looks very different for all of us; some of us may be pillow-humpers, some of us may enjoy penetrative sex toys, and some of us may just enjoy some spit and our own hands. 

The second rule, though, is masturbation can be fun when it’s mutual!

Before you ask, yes, mutual masturbation is different than having sex with a partner—even though it is just as fun! 

Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) is a more aggravated version of Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS). PMS feels like bopping to an angsty No Doubt song on the radio, while PMDD feels like being trapped in a Hawthorne Heights screamo concert with no end in sight.

PMDD is a medical condition that causes severe irritability, anxiety, and depression in the week or two before your period(1). Symptoms subside 2-3 days after your period starts. An estimated 5-8% of women and AFAB (assigned female at birth) individuals have PMDD(2).

Those of us that have PMDD can thank our lucky stars that masturbating serves as a fun way to relieve symptoms.

Racing heart, shallow breathing, tensed muscles, and goosebumps. Sounds pretty sexy, right? Not always.

If we look closely, the physical symptoms of anxiety can overlap with some things we experience during sex and arousal. Though they share these physical experiences, anxiety and sex are not happy bedfellows. “Anxiety is a major contributor to diminishing frequency of sex and diminishing capacity for enjoyment of sex,” says Colorado-based certified sex therapist Indigo Stray Conger.

Let’s explore some of the more common ways anxiety can impact your sex life (and some tips to find let go and enjoy sex again!).

We talk a lot about the Lioness Vibrator and its capabilities. We’ve even mentioned how it can help you integrate your sexual health into your overall health in order to understand how the two are linked.

But getting started can feel daunting. How do you take what your Lioness shows you in the app and apply it to your sex life in real life? 

Using help from certified Sex Coach Amy Baldwin, we’ve compiled an easy to follow guide for how you can take improve your own understanding of your arousal and orgasms. 

Ah, weed lube. Who wouldn’t be intrigued by the promise of better orgasms?

I’ve spent the last seven years developing the Lioness Smart Vibrator, which uses biofeedback technology, precision sensors, and data to track orgasms. Of that time, I’ve spent three of those years conducting different projects studying the effects of cannabis on sexual function. Naturally, those two passions intersected into exploring how all sorts of cannabis strains and products can affect pleasure, both with myself and with different people.

That’s why I’m excited to share with you today a review of one of my favorite cannabis lubricants, Quim’s Oh Yes Latex-safe Serum. I’ll share my orgasm data to show what made this different compared to everything else I’ve tried.

While I can recognize the energizing power and benefits of a masturbation ritual, I can also see when I’ve become too dependent on it. Instead of finding time for workouts, meditation, or journaling, my masturbation habits carry all the weight of relieving my stress.

With quarantine forcing us to bring our workspace into our homes, it has been too easy to sneak off between Zoom calls to rub one out. I started to get antsy, irritable, and impatient throughout my workday. I had trouble concentrating because I was simply biding time until I could get my next fix.

Orgasms can be addictive when I don’t balance that out with other forms of self-care. I began to wonder what masturbation would look like when I’m not using it solely for stress-relief.

In a world where masturbation for people with vaginas is still taboo, it’s so important to be able to make space for the learning, exploration, and fun Liz and Anna had in mind when they developed the Lioness Smart Vibrator.

This is why we came up with the “What Lioness Means to Me” blog series. We want to be able to go a step beyond Lioness Vibrator reviews. We want to highlight the Lioness’s capabilities while giving all of those in our Pride the chance to speak for themselves.

Below is the first in our series, a submission from Rachael. Rachael is a mom, a woman with a Ph.D., a college professor, and a self-proclaimed Lioness enthusiast. Check out her story below:

Femtech is a weird category. While it has raised awareness in the mainstream consciousness about a number of issues related to women’s health, the term is not without its underlying problems.

Here, I will speak about it as the Co-founder and CEO of Lioness, a sexual wellness company that created a biofeedback vibrator that helps people learn more about their own bodies and pleasure. I started Lioness in 2013, a few years before the term Femtech was in the general conversation, and can share a bit about how the rise of this term has influenced investment and media over the years.

Outside of the military community, Memorial Day is generally pretty sexy. Bikinis, beer and barbecues; steaks, sunscreen, and swimming pools. It’s a day many civilians look forward to.

Inside the military community, however, things can look and feel a bit different. For a military spouse, it’s often a day where we anticipate our service member needing more love than they give. It’s a day when we know they’re going to be thinking of all the people they’ve loved and lost - people they’ve endured everything with, from boot camp to wars. 

This begs the question; how do you maintain intimacy with something like death and loss hanging heavy in the air? The answer is so simple, it may surprise you!

In the world of sex, fetishes and fantasies are often viewed as taboo. While you can lean toward science and studies to tell you that they’re not actually that uncommon, chances are you’ve got the best possible person to share your sexual fantasies with; your partner.

Still, figuring out how to share your sexual fantasies with someone may seem difficult at first. If you’ve never approached the subject, you may be unsure of what to ask, how to ask it, and how to react.

Fortunately, we’ve compiled a simple list of tips and tricks for how to talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies and theirs.